Choosing Compassion over Calamity

Holly

The magic of Language of Compassion has been just that, magical! 

I entered the room of my first Language of Compassion training, thinking, “This is going to help me communicate more effectively with my mother. Maybe this is the key to reducing the arguments!”

Language of Compassion did more than help with that first desired outcome. 

The most exciting part of my journey in learning and practicing Language of Compassion has been the level of compassion and communication I have had with myself. 

I’m able to provide compassion for myself when I think I made the wrong choice and instead remind myself that I was meeting the most pressing need at that time. 

When I am in the heat of a work disagreement, I am, in that moment, able to identify the unmet need and then communicate that need. 

I remember a very uncomfortable discussion I was having with my VP. She was adamant we were going to have this uncomfortable discussion. I had already placed boundaries saying I didn’t want to further discuss this, yet she continued pressing on in the days following. 

When she engaged in this discussion once more, I paused for a moment to connect with what was alive within me at that moment. In that moment, I realized I needed clarity. I then said, “I feel very uncertain having this discussion. We do not have all the information we need to know to make a decision. Would you be willing to consider postponing this conversation until we have more information, so we are adequately evaluating and communicating?” 

 My VP took a pause and a breath and agreed to wait on this uncomfortable conversation. I felt relieved. I also felt empowered in that moment. I was able to meet my need in a respectful manner of myself and my leadership. 

I grow everyday using the methods of Language of Compassion. It has really transformed my mannerism and communication style. I now speak from a place of compassion instead of defense.

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